I’ve always been a fan of flowers accenting my afro. My slight boho sensibilities get giddy with flowers in coils. Lately, this bohemian trend has been making an appearance all over Instagram with the floral crown stickers. I even did a post on a Flower Power bridal shower theme, because I love flowers. To continue with the floral festivities here are some inspiring looks to try this summer.
When I’m working, I typically listen to different podcasts rather than consistently listen to music. It mellows me out while still keeping my mind engaged. One of my favorite podcasts, right now, is Jeff Goins’ The Portfolio Life. He uses his platform to encourage creatives to find the work they love to do and simply start doing it. Although, it is geared towards other creatives, the self-development lessons are universal. This post is adapted from his podcast titled, “088: Three Stages of Personal Development Borrowed from The Middle Ages.” There are 3 inevitable stages of self-development that I believe every person consciously or unconsciously follows in order to achieve personal development and success.
Growing up, I didn’t care too much about style, hair or anything super girly. My attitude was a nuisance to my very feminine mom. I would forget to put on my earrings, or chose to wear pants over a skirt, or preferred to wear baby powder over scented body sprays. One time, I remembered being so bored during one of my mom’s weekend shopping excursions at Bloomingdales, that I stood in the middle of the Eileen Fisher department and started dancing to the music piped through the intercom at my mother’s dismay just cajole her to leave. The only mission I accomplished was a sharp stare and a verbal warning of punishment when I got home.
Years later, I became that feminine woman. A woman inspired by my mom. I eventually worked at the same Bloomingdales as a Visual Merchandising Intern in the Marketing Department. It’s funny where life takes us; depending on the seeds that were sown. Watching my mom cultivate her signature style over the years gave me a blueprint for my own.
This super sweet bridal shower theme has me searching for almond milk to wash down the sugar. I love elevated child themes. Typically, this theme would be cute for a baby shower or kid’s birthday, but add some macaroons, cotton candy topped champagne and an effortless cake, you have a sophisticated version of your childhood dreams. Who wouldn’t want to get lost in a Sweets Shoppe? For added fun, DIY an ice cream piñata and fill with department store cosmetics samples. Your friends will thank you for it.
Some people love to be surrounded by other people. They love to have a lot of kids running around the house, or are always inviting friends over for game night or an impromptu dinner party. Their energy feeds off of other people’s energy. That isn’t so for me at all times. I enjoy throwing intimate dinner parties, as much as, I enjoy typing away at my laptop in complete silence. I’m an ambivert. Meaning, I am not completely an extrovert or an introvert. I’m a balance of the two personalities. I enjoy socializing with my friends, but can quickly get exhausted by being around them and need some alone time to recharge my battery. Over the years, I have learned how to enjoy being alone without feeling like I’m missing out on life. If it doesn’t come natural to you, with practice you can enjoy it too.
1. Be Selfish With Your Weeknights
The temperatures are rising, so it’s tempting to go to Happy Hour or an impromptu weeknight movie with friends to enjoy extended daylight. As tempting as it may seem, try to spend your weeknights solo. You can dedicate the weekends for your friends and family. If you’re like me, you probably don’t get home until 7pm or 8pm anyways. Be efficient with those precious hours before your eyes start to get droopy, to read the bestseller that everyone has been talking about. You can work on perfecting your nail polishing skills to save money at the nail salon or try a new recipe. Whatever you decide to do, use your weeknights for self-development. That way, when the weekend comes, you won’t feel guilty about attending your routine Sunday brunch with your girls instead of working on that work presentation.
2. Savor Your Commute
Consider your commute sacred “me” time when you’re driving or even riding the train. Use that time to reflect, confess affirmations about where you want to be in life, read, journal, etc. When I’m driving, you can find me blasting my music and singing on the top of my lungs, because it gets me energized. Typically, I’m not a morning person, so it helps me to shake off sleepiness. I also like to make confessions when I’m alone in the car. Basically, I speak aloud about the direction I want my life to go and the character I want to embody. For example, I repeatedly say, “I am a lender and not a borrower.” My morning confession time helps. When I see a cute dress I can’t afford and I am tempted to reach for a credit card, it easier for me to say, “Get thee behind me Satan!” LOL. Allow your commute to work for you.
3. Prioritize Your Social Events
You have some amazing friends that are doing amazing things, so there will be amazing events to attend. However, you don’t have to attend every.single.event. Trust me, your loyal friends will understand if you can’t make it to their super last minute painting party, but you can make it to their first book launching. Choose the most important events to attend and leave the rest for others to enjoy.
4. Be Loyal To Your Goals
There is something I’ve learned from other ambitious Girlbosses, you have to prioritize your goals. Attending an event, when you have to write your long overdue business plan is being disloyal to your goals. Time is a precious commodity. Once it’s spent, it can never be retrieved. It’s important to prioritize your time. If you know you have to attend a particular event, or hangout with a particular friend, make sure you have worked on your goals and taken care of business before or after hanging out. I’m not saying become a recluse. But do you want another year to pass by with accomplishing goals on your list, Ms. Socialite? I don’t. Personally, I am determined to master the Adobe Illustrator software this year, so I’ve dedicated Friday evenings to practicing and improving my skills. Right now, it’s more important for me to develop a new skill set than to socialize. Successful people have to make scarifices.
5. Find A Youtube Muse
Sometimes, it’s necessary to hear another human’s voice after long sessions of silence. I can feel a bit lonely working by myself on my laptop for hours. However, to combat my moments of boredom, I turn to Youtube for a laugh, inspiration and just a break. I do a lot of musing on Youtube. From learning how to shape the perfect arch for my eyebrows to watching vlogs from Australia, I like breaking up my day by watching how others are living and being inspired. As sad as it may seem (maybe not), the voices from the vlogs feel like I have someone there. This way, I don’t feel as lonely when I’m alone tackling my to-do list.
How do you cope when you’re working alone?