Don’t rejoice when your enemies fall;
don’t be happy when they stumble.
For the Lord will be displeased with you
and will turn his anger away from them.
We all have haters. People who have offended us in different ways. When you’ve been hurt or offended, it’s hard to show a level of compassion towards that person. It seems unnatural and in essence, it is. It takes a great level of inner strength, humility, and faith to go against your instinct to be resentful or revengeful. However, sometimes it’s important to step outside of ourselves to see the situation in a different perspective or light to come to a more peaceful conclusion.
If you’re young Nigerian and fly without a man, chances are people are trying to introduce you to someone every other week. I’m I lying? I get it, marriage is an accomplishment to most and our parents and aunties want to brag about that too. They have our best interest in mind. But to a certain extent, you wonder whether they really know you when you meet some of these men. I’ve been there and trying to diplomatically escape from those situations are not easy. But I’ve learned a thing or two about human interaction that might be beneficial. However, it’s a process. Learning the art of politely rejecting people, so that they truly understand that you’re not interested (and not playing hard to get) is an art I’m still trying to master. Here are some common scenarios that may arise. It always helps to be prepared.
From threading to braids, Nigerian women aren’t afraid to experiment with their hair. We have been consistently adding attachments and weaves to adorn our beloved crowns. Gone are the days that a TWA (that’s Teeny Weeny Afro) meant you were on your way to boarding school or being punished for remotely enticing a boy with your hair just by letting the wind catch a strand. Now, a modern group of Nigerian Naturalistas are in the front of the hair class, giving us the inspiration to Big Chop and start over, proudly wearing our natural coils without shame. Here are a few noted Nigerians leading the way to help us embrace our beauty, naturally.
Previously, I spoke about the perception of men having a lot of options pertaining to their choice of women. You can read my slight rant here. The bottom line, I don’t think men have a lot of options if they’re looking for valuable women. Not just any valuable woman. A woman that will add personal value to them. Here are a few guidelines for valuable women to follow.
So Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching and people are thinking about relationships. Whether they are in one and want to stay, or they want to go or they just want to be in one, relationships are on people’s minds. It’s been on my mind too. Just in a different way. I’m going to rant just a bit. I apologize in advance.
Last week, I put up a post about good moisturizers for low porosity hair. This time, I want to talk about high porosity hair (you didn’t think I would leave this out did you?). If you don’t know how to test the difference, read this post. Unlike low porosity hair, high porosity hair absorbs moisture really well. However, it also loses moisture easily. Because the hair cuticles are often open, it’s hard for high porous hair to retain moisture. High porous hair can be attributed to heat damage, poor hair maintenance, harsh hair dyes or just good ‘ole genes. It’s usually thin and can break easily if not properly maintained. High porosity hair needs heavier products and sealants to aid in retaining moisture. Products that contain butters and thicker oils like shea butter, mango butter, babassu oil, olive oil and avocado oil can help to retain moisture high porosity hair. Also, protein-rich products aid in strengthen the hair. Proteins temporarily fill the porous gaps leaving the hair stronger and less prone to tangles and knots. Personally, I have high porosity hair. I use castor oil on an almost daily basis for my twist outs and I try to deep condition my hair after every wash. Here are some products to try for your hair.