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    Why Sex Before Marriage Is Dangerous


    Why Sex Before Marriage Is Dangerous

    So, I’m aware that some may not agree with my point-of-view. But let’s push our personal feelings aside and analyze the matter objectively, shall we? First and foremost, sex is enjoyable. I definitely agree. It is. It was meant to be. God created sex to bring married couples closer together to strengthen their companionship. I’m kinda against the school of thought that the main purpose of sex is to produce children, because you don’t see a child mentioned in the Bible until after the fall of man. So, what were Adam and Eve doing in the Garden until then, just looking at each other?

    However, the intent was to bring them closer AFTER they grew close through emotional intimacy. Emotional intimacy is simply allowing someone to “see into you” and allowing you to “see into them,” their heart, their mind, their soul. Every type of interpersonal relationship requires emotional intimacy, but it is a powerful catalyst for fulfilling sexual desires in a husband and wife relationship. The reason why I’m putting emphasis on HUSBAND and WIFE and not just any relationship is to acknowledge that sex outside of a strong, committed marriage is way too dangerous. Even Solomon’s wife agreed.

              Solomon 8:3-4 (MSG)

    Imagine! His left hand cradling my head,
        his right arm around my waist!
    Oh, let me warn you, sisters in Jerusalem:
        Don’t excite love, don’t stir it up,
        until the time is ripe—and you’re ready.” 

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    How To Show Compassion To Your Haters



        Don’t rejoice when your enemies fall;
        don’t be happy when they stumble.
        For the Lord will be displeased with you
        and will turn his anger away from them.

               Proverbs 21:17-18

    We all have haters. People who have offended us in different ways. When you’ve been hurt or offended, it’s hard to show a level of compassion towards that person. It seems unnatural and in essence, it is. It takes a great level of inner strength, humility, and faith to go against your instinct to be resentful or revengeful. However, sometimes it’s important to step outside of ourselves to see the situation in a different perspective or light to come to a more peaceful conclusion.

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    5 Tips On How To Pray Effectively

    Prayer is nothing new. Everyone has heard about prayer and to an extent everyone prays. Even unbelievers pray.  They just don’t know that they do. Have you ever been in a situation where you are suddenly frighten and you gasp, “Oh, Lord!” or “Oh, God!” Who are you speaking to?

    Not yourself.

    And not your friend who’s standing next to you.

    You’re speaking to God to help you. It’s an expression that is coming from your subconscious. Whether someone intends to or not, we are God’s created beings. There is an internal space that can’t be filled by anyone or thing except for Him. Periodically, an unbeliever’s being has to acknowledge its Creator in one way or the other. Sometimes, that’s in prayer. Prayer is intended for all of us. Done effectively, it is a powerful tool for a successful life. Having the ability to talk to an all-knowing God about anything is something we can’t take for granted.

    1. Just Speak (or Think)

    There is a misconception that prayer has to be spoken in an elaborate way for it to be effective. That’s just not true. Prayer is simple. It’s just having a conversation with God. If you can speak with your friend, your parents, your child, and your pet, than you can speak to God. Just open your mouth and speak. There is no silly prayer. Nor is there an uneducated prayer. Start from where you are and the Holy Spirit will teach you what you should focus on. You don’t even need to speak. There are some people who were not born with the ability to speak that still pray through their thoughts. Sometimes, when I’m at work, at my desk, I’m praying through my thoughts. God still hears my thoughts just the same as if I spoke them. Communicate the best way you know how. However, just do it.

    2. Pray About Everything

    There isn’t a certain topic you must pray at all times. God gives us the liberty to come to Him about any and everything. Be bold about your prayers. I try not to take my opportunity to pray for granted. I like to pray about everything that comes to mind when I’m before Him. When I wanted my hair to grow, I prayed about that. When I wanted a flatter stomach, I prayed about that. God is so in love with us that He wants to be apart of E.VER.Y aspect of our lives. I’m not going to let my limited understanding of how He works to restrict His answer to every question that I have.

    Now that we know what we have—Jesus, this great High Priest with ready access to God—let’s not let it slip through our fingers. We don’t have a priest who is out of touch with our reality. He’s been through weakness and testing, experienced it all—all but the sin. So let’s walk right up to him and get what he is so ready to give. Take the mercy, accept the help.” (Hebrews 4:16 MSG)

    Learn to unequivocally seek help and answers from God in every aspect of your life. Even the small crevices of it.

    3. There Is No Perfect Posture

    There is a misconception that prayer always has to be on your knees. That’s just not true. When you’re having a conversation with your friend, are you always sitting, or always standing? No. So, why do we think we always have to be on our knees to converse with God? The Bible says,

    pray all the time” (1 Thessalonians 5:17 MSG).

    How can we pray when we’re lead to if it always has to be on our knees? I pray while showering, in the car, on the train, at work, standing in line, etc. I can pray sitting Indian style, laying on the floor, sitting in a chair, etc. Honestly, I rarely pray on my knees. For some reason, when I pray on my knees, I tend to fall asleep. That position is comfortable for me, so my body gets too relaxed and just shuts down. I used to get really upset with myself, because I found it difficult to pray even though I really wanted to. Than I realized, I need to just change my posture and it worked. God is not as strict as we make Him out to be. God can answer your prayer in any posture, as long as, you’re conversing with Him. I highly doubt God would refuse the prayers of a paraplegic, because they couldn’t get down on their knees.

    4. Pray In Details

    When you pray, pray in details. Instead of praying, “Lord, I need a healing.” Rather pray, “Lord, I need a healing from diabetes or the scar from my past bad relationship.” We all need healing from something. It doesn’t have to be physical, it can be mental or emotional. You may have more than one thing you need to be healed from. So, if you don’t what you need a healing from, than how would you know He’s delivered you from it? God is a gentleman. He won’t overstep His boundaries if you don’t have the required faith that is necessary to receive it. Be specific.

    5. Use The Lord’s Prayer For Guidance

    Jesus was asked, how should we pray and He said,

    In this manner, therefore, pray:

    v. 9 Our Father in heaven,
    Hallowed be Your name.
    v. 10 Your kingdom come.
    Your will be done
    On earth as it is in heaven.
    v.11 Give us this day our daily bread.
    v.12 And forgive us our debts,
    As we forgive our debtors.
    v. 13 And do not lead us into temptation,
    But deliver us from the evil one.
    For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever. Amen. (Matthew 6:9-13 NKJV)

     If we use the Lord’s prayer as a guide, we can find many topics to pray about. First, honor God: “Our Father in Heaven, hallowed be Your name.” Second, acknowledge His will for our lives and ask that He will make it come to pass: “Your kingdom come. Your will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.” Third, ask for provision to accomplish what He has willed for us to do: “Give us this day our daily bread.” Fourth, ask God to forgive our sins as we forgive others that have sinned against us: ” And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.” Fifth, ask for guidance and protection: “And do not lead us into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.” Lastly, acknowledge that God is powerful and glorious: “For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever.” See how many prayer points you have with just the Lord’s prayer? Jesus gave us a guide, so let’s use it for our benefit.

    I’m curious, how do you pray?


    Reflecting On: David’s Patience

    Reflecting on David's Patience

    Last week, I was studying David’s rise to kingship in my Sunday School manual. When King Saul disobeyed God by rushing to make a sacrifice on his own, God decided to appoint David to replace him.

    Then Samuel took the horn of oil and anointed him in the midst of his brothers; and the Spirit of the Lord came upon David from that day forward.” 1 Samuel 16:13 (NKJV)

    Even though David was the youngest of his brothers and a Shepard, God still destined him to be king. The part that held my attention was that David went back to being a Shepard after he was anointed. He knew he would be king one day, but he didn’t change his lifestyle. He continued to live humbly as a Shepard until he was called to come to the palace. How many of us can live within our current means if we were promoted to be a CEO of a Fortune 500 company? I probably would start researching how to customize a Tesla, as soon as, I signed my employment agreement. David was certainly a patient and humble man. It’s a challenge to perceive where you’re going, yet decide to wait until the future is ready to receive you. David didn’t leave his home until King Saul summoned him to the palace.

    Therefore Saul sent messengers to Jesse, and said, ‘Send me your son David, who is with the sheep.” 1 Samuel 16:19 (NKJV)

    David eventually made it to the palace, but he didn’t start at the top. He started from the bottom. He started playing music for King Saul to relieve him of his stress. Eventually, David worked his way up to kingship.

    Then Saul sent to Jesse, saying, ‘Please let David stand before me, for he has found favor in my sight.” 1 Samuel 16: 22 (NKJV)

    As a millennial, David’s work ethic and patience is inspiring. Most of us would rather start at the top and figure it out. If I was offered a CEO position and was told I’m starting in the mailroom and working my way up. I would be in my feelings…hard. I would much rather start the CEO position and learn from trial and error. However, that would be a recipe for disaster. Essentially, David learned to be a king by serving another king patiently for 13 years. When he finally rose to the top, he hit the ground running. At times, it may seem like we are always answering to a boss. It can be hard when we have some fresh ideas we want to implement and feel we can carry the company or a personal business far. However, everyone has to be go through training in order to succeed. It will save us a lot of time and stress to learn and soak up as much knowledge as possible until it’s time for us to be promoted in life.

    Lord, grant me the grace to wait patiently for my timing.