“Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” Proverbs 31:30
A couple of years ago, I was reading an article about women’s perceptions. The article was titled, “Would you Rather Be Beautiful or Intelligent?” It prompted the reader to choose which characteristic they would rather be over the other. After careful consideration, I chose intelligence. Why? Well my thought process was… with some makeup and a nice hairdo, even an average looking woman can become more attractive to someone, but having the option to choose a certain IQ would probably be harder to attain and give me more of an edge in society. The article stated that women who were asked the question and chose “intelligence” were more than likely already conventionally beautiful or perceived themselves to be beautiful, but were less confident in their perception of their own intelligence. Equally, the women that chose “beautiful” were more than likely already conventionally intelligent or perceived themselves to be intelligent, but were less confident in their perception of their own beauty. Put simply, the characteristic that the women initially chose, they didn’t believe they already had it or had enough of it.
This was an eye opener for me, because I usually did well in school, so it wasn’t that I was not intelligent. But somehow, I subconsciously did not think I was smart enough. Which was true. In class, I would double check my answer and recite, in my head, how I would say the answer before raising my hand. But as I grew older and wiser, I realized that intelligence comes in different forms and no one has all the answers. In the long run, I ended up gaining and maintaining both. My true beauty, I continue to develop from within through having a relationship with Christ. Which translate to me smiling (I think my smile is my best feature….hands down!) and laughing a lot, because I’m learning to be content with whom He has made me to be. With my intelligence… I continue to gain from having a willingness to learn from different resources and perspectives in my life, without compromising my own values and beliefs.
Which would you rather be? Or would you rather be both?