Previously, I spoke about the perception of men having a lot of options pertaining to their choice of women. You can read my slight rant here. The bottom line, I don’t think men have a lot of options if they’re looking for valuable women. Not just any valuable woman. A woman that will add personal value to them. Here are a few guidelines for valuable women to follow.
So Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching and people are thinking about relationships. Whether they are in one and want to stay, or they want to go or they just want to be in one, relationships are on people’s minds. It’s been on my mind too. Just in a different way. I’m going to rant just a bit. I apologize in advance.
Last week, I put up a post about good moisturizers for low porosity hair. This time, I want to talk about high porosity hair (you didn’t think I would leave this out did you?). If you don’t know how to test the difference, read this post. Unlike low porosity hair, high porosity hair absorbs moisture really well. However, it also loses moisture easily. Because the hair cuticles are often open, it’s hard for high porous hair to retain moisture. High porous hair can be attributed to heat damage, poor hair maintenance, harsh hair dyes or just good ‘ole genes. It’s usually thin and can break easily if not properly maintained. High porosity hair needs heavier products and sealants to aid in retaining moisture. Products that contain butters and thicker oils like shea butter, mango butter, babassu oil, olive oil and avocado oil can help to retain moisture high porosity hair. Also, protein-rich products aid in strengthen the hair. Proteins temporarily fill the porous gaps leaving the hair stronger and less prone to tangles and knots. Personally, I have high porosity hair. I use castor oil on an almost daily basis for my twist outs and I try to deep condition my hair after every wash. Here are some products to try for your hair.
Most naturals either have low porosity or high porosity hair. You can test this by putting some of your strands in a bowl of water for a few minutes to see if it floats or sinks. If your strands float then you probably have low porosity hair and if it sinks than high porosity hair. Low porosity occurs when the hair cuticles are tightly bound with overlapping scales that make it difficult for moisture to enter the hair shaft. Which means you tend to have super dry hair. It’s best to stay away from protein-rich products and heavy oils that will just sit on top of your hair shaft making your hair stiff or oily. Emollients like shea butter and coconut oils are excellent moisture boosters. Also, products with humectant ingredients that draw moisture from the air like honey and glycerin make your coils bounce with moisture. So if you leave in a humid climate like parts of Nigeria, ladies with low-porosity hair can mix honey or glycerin with their conditioners to add more moisture to their coils. Using hair milks and lighter oils like jojoba oil, grapeseed oil and argan oil will help to add moisture to your strands by easily penetrating your hair shaft. Just remember that because it’s harder to get moisture into low porosity hair, lighter products will be better than the heavy creams and butters.
Okay, beautiful people. It’s resolution time. I’ve done these in the past here and here. But can I be honest? Last year I was all about the planners and I got the Powersheets one. However, I didn’t even open it. I know. I felt overwhelmed by the process and intense planning. I made resolutions, but I just wrote it out on regular paper with the lines. This doesn’t mean that the Powersheets or any other planner isn’t beneficial. It just wasn’t the best for me. I wanted something simple and less intimidating.
While perusing Instagram, I saw some posts asking people what word described their 2016. Many of the words were negative, because it’s been a difficult year in many ways. I do think some good happened. But we usually focus on the negatives more than the positives, which tends to overshadow the good even if more good happened. So instead of waiting for the end of 2017 to describe how it went, I want to be intentional and describe how I want 2017 to be. That way I can intentionally work on 2017 being the outcome I want it to be.
So, what is one word (or words) that describe how you envision 2017?